We’ve all heard the toddler screaming and squealing as they are walking down the street, hand being held by their parent whose face looks understandably rattled. You know, its the mummy face that face that says “I’m tapping out of this week and would like to head straight to next week’.
We’ve all felt that at some stage right?
If we were to be honest, we know we have all been there, and if we still have young children, we’ll most likely be there more quickly than we’d like to admit, or would like!
I don’t know about you, but some mornings my toddlers meltdowns start as soon as he opens his eyes at 5:30. I join him by groaning on the inside…….”not again, not now, NOT NOWWWWWWWWW!!!!!!! Pleaaaaaaaase let me sleeeeeeeeeeep!!!!! WWWAAAAAAAAAAAAAHHHH!
So, I’ve asked myself this……why is he so CRANKY!
Well, here are some reasons why I think this could be the case…..
My youngest is constantly crook! And by constantly I mean, he is at the doctors at least once a month. It’s either ear infections, or a cold. I’d be cranky as well if I was in this routine of chronic pain. What can I do about this? To be honest, I don’t think I can possibly do much more than I am.
I think we have forgotten how painful growing up actually is. Master 7 the other day complained of having a headache and a throbbing pain in his legs. I think he was literally explaining his growing pains.
Teething, OMG! Teething is painful!! Poor poppets are in this cycle of misery. But, it’s not forever, just a for now thing.
Ever since my children were babies, we chose to routine them. By that I mean, their sleep schedules were on a routine, and for us, it was fantastic. All three still eat and bathe at roughly the same time each night, and hit that 7:00 bus. However, as all three share the same bedroom, sometimes master 7 likes to talk a bit too much and delays the sleep fairy from arriving. I think the only solution to this problem, is to exhaust Master 7!!
This is an interesting thought, and we have worked on making a change in this instance. I’ve written before in a previous post about getting rid of FOXTEL, and in fact of reducing screen time! Well, we continue to do just that.
- Our boys get NO TV in the morning – they PLAY!!
- They interact socially with each other (both good and bad)
- We eat breakfast together and get to talk about our interests.
- We read stories.
But some nights, we allow them to play the iPad for say 20 minutes. This means that their overall screen time for the week would add up to approximately 4-5 hours per week! It would be a bonus if they watch a movie on the weekend. But some children are exposed to 14 + hours a week. It’s definitely something to consider and reflect upon!
Have you ever thought about how your moods effect your children? I know that when I am stressed, or rushed, or lost……I have much less left over in my reserve tank to deal with their moods. While sometimes I get to explain my emotions, (Inside Out) is such a perfect movie to reflect on with this one. It’s not always the case! How can I deal with that? Well, I think being cranky is normal, as long as it doesn’t go on and on. None of us a perfect, and as a friend writes in her blog, we are all perfectly flawed. It’s good to check in with yourself, and try to make the necessary changes you can accommodate. We can’t always be ‘Miss Perfect’, but to be mindful as to how we can effect our children or loved ones is important.
They just want and need me
My children want and need me! They want my cuddles, love and affirmation. I believe it is essential they get it as well! Working part time, and tutoring part time takes its toll on me and the quality time I get to spend with my children sometimes. We all crave having someone talk to us without a distraction.
- Turn your electronic devices off.
- Make a day, a device free day.
- Sit down with your children and play WITH them.
- Talk TO them.
- Read TO them.
- Be IMAGINATIVE.
- Go for a bike ride, go to the park together.
- Make it QUALITY.
- Give them cuddles when they need them when you feel you’ve got not much left in the tank.
GUARANTEED, that human touch and love response will give you infinitely more energy than you realise.
So, I’m going to attempt to slow down…turn my devices off…….cuddle more……..play more…….
What about you?