I felt it was important to discuss the importance of prioritising. If anyone else’s life is similar to mine, all too often, and all too quickly all of the ‘have too’s’ start to build up to what can sometimes be an unsurmountable obstacle.
So, when I am feeling like I don’t know which way to turn, and when each breath I take seems to be weighing me down, I do a few things.
Firstly, I allow myself to feel a little bit bamboozled, this is totally normal and allows me to reach the conclusion that I need to make an adjustment.
Then I take a deep breath, (or quite a few) and then reflect on what I am currently doing, and what else I need to do.
Confused yet? Okay, I’ll give you an example.
- So I have three little boys under 6.
- Two are diagnosed with ASD and I have already started early interventive proactive help. One boy receives funding, while the older one doesn’t. My other cherub is toddling along with his recurrent ear infections, but that is either a fortnightly or monthly occurrance for us.
- I work part time (2 days a week), and for reasons of sanity,
- I need to attend the gym (I try to go at least 3 times per week). I am also attempting to get my body ready for small triathlons or to run half marathons.
- The boys attend Occupational Therapy sessions once a week (with exercises to complete each night), Speech Therapy every fortnight (with follow up support at home), Behavioual Optometrist (with exercised to complete nightly) observations to make now and swimming lessons weekly.
So what else do I need to do on top of all of this? Well, my eldest son has suspected dyslexia, which in line with his other requirements, needs specific attention. Hence, the additional burden I am feeling, so what am I doing?
I had been referred to a specialist in Brisbane for assistance with his dyslexia. This is extremely costly, and I mean $800 with no rebates offered, and the initial assessment is only available in June, and the completing feedback at the end of August. Any form of support isn’t available until the possibility of 2016. Hmmmm….by my calculations that is another year wasted, and I am foreseeing this extremely expensive assessment as just the tip of the iceberg. So what do I do?
In-between messy nappies, arguing siblings, cleaning the house, attending specialists, swimming lessons and the like, I have been doing a bit of research. Unfortunately, but very truthfully speaking, most teachers are not equipped to assist students with special needs, or special learning needs. So how do I approach Term 2? Hmmmm.
Well, I have made some enquiries on programs and have found one, which I think may work! The cost is very pricy as well. This one is at least $1000 for 3 – 4 months. It will require 5 x 30 minute sessions for at least 3 – 4 months. This is time that I need to fit into my already busy day, and on top of a little boy who is tired at night. So what’s the dilemma you ask?
Well, this is when I need to take stock of what I am currently doing. What is it on my plate at the moment?
Here’s the shot
Monday – drop number 2 and 3 to daycare (Coorparoo) drive to work with late meetings (Capalaba) back to (Coorparoo) and then home to (Morningside) prepare dinner, prepare lunches for next day, bath, homework, Home reading, sight words, OT exercise, Optometrist exercises, bed.
Tuesday – drop number 2 and 3 to daycare (Coorparoo) drive to work with late meetings (Capalaba) back to (Coorparoo) and then home to (Morningside) prepare dinner, prepare lunches for next day, bath, homework, reading, sight words, OT exercises, Optometrist exercises, bed.
Wednesday – drop number 3 to daycare (Coorparoo), drive to (Manly West) to OT, drive to school (Morningside) to drop off number 1, drive to (Carina Heights) to ST, Drive number 2 to daycare, (Coorparoo). Drive back home. Tidy up and prepare for pick up (morningside) (possibly the gym session in the afternoon )and back to daycare to collect (Coorparoo) prepare dinner, prepare lunches for next day, bath, homework, reading, sight words, OT exercises, Optometrist exercises, bed.
Thursday – drop number 1 school (Morningside) attempt to get a gym session (Morningside) do the groceries, unpack, toddler to bed, collect number 1 from school (morningside) swimming lessons (Morningside) prepare dinner, prepare lunches for next day, bath, homework, sight words, reading, OT exercises, Optometrist exercises, bed.
Friday – drop number 1 to school, attempt to get a gym session, possible specialist appointment, house clean, toddler to bed, collect number 1 from school, prepare dinner, prepare lunches for next day, bath, homework, OT exercises, Optometrist exercises, bed.
Then I ask myself some more questions?
- Where does it go?
- My account is hemorrhaging?
- How can I do this to my 6 year old?
- How can I not help my 6 year old?
- Will this work?
- When does all of this ‘have too’ stop?
But then I have clarity…..
- I think I will commit to the additional program. So, I am going to approach the classroom teacher and discuss the additional needs of our son, and the commitment to the program for his benefit and waiver the ‘English’ side of homework for the term and ask if he can only do the math component. We will continue with the reading and sight words.
- The exercises for OT will be done every second night, not every night.
- The exercises for the optometrist will need to be incorporated into other activities
- I will continue with swimming as it’s important for bilateral coordination and outdoor sports
- I will do soccer skills at home myself with the boys instead of paying to go.
- I will maintain my gym membership otherwise I don’t think I could do ANY of the above.